Public Display of Affection

It is a big step for a couple when they commit to sexual freedom for the woman and monogamy for the man. Once a couple has taken this step, they will find themselves making one decision after another on how to live this lifestyle.

One decision to be made is how public will they make their decision. In other words, who will know about the lifestyle they have chosen to live? Will she tell her friends? Will he tell his? These decisions will have consequences some of which will heighten the excitement for the couple.

Some couples want to announce themselves to the world. An ankle bracelet for her is the most common sign. When she wears a key on a chain around her neck, those in the know will realize it's the key to his chastity device. Recently, Sheryl of Greg & Sheryl has been making available the Queen of Spades temporary tattoos. Wearing one in public can give a couple an indication if wearing a "Public Display of Affection" for a cuckolding or interracial lifestyle excites them. Being seen in public in this way could change the course of an evening out if the right man or men spot the signal.

If the couple finds this stimulating, the tattoo can always be made permanent.

The moment of sharing

One of the most intimate moments between a man and wife is the exchange of looks or a kiss while she is receiving attention from another man. Whether it is a significant glance from across a crowded restaurant or penetration in bed, the bond formed between the couple gives them a sharing experience that has no equal in a monogamous marriage.

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How to get your wife to have sex with other men

The fact is the many wives are already having sex with other men without their husband's knowledge. It is a natural inclination that most can repress but statistics show that your dream of entering into the cuckold lifestyle may already have begun. Unfortunately, when it's done in secret, it builds walls in the relationship rather than a more intimate bond.

The best way to establish a complicit cuckolding relationship is to be open about your interest. If you don't try to pressure or enforce the idea, it will likely begin to work on her and she will gradually become excited by the prospect without your coaching. The key is for her to realize that the activity does not include you having sex with other women. This is about your interest in her. You will know the process has begun when she starts to ask you all sorts of questions as to how it would function or why you find it exciting. Depending on her upbringing, it may take hours or years for her to brave asking you these questions. Be assured she will be thinking about them in any event.

It is well known that women tend to find sexual satisfaction in an stable, emotionally secure relationship. She has that with you. If she is assured by you that her sexual adventures will add to the stability and security of her relationship with you, it can open up a new way of looking at things and she just might surprise you by how quickly she takes action once she understands your feelings.

The best way to answer many of the questions she will put to you is to have her read this blog and any of those listed here as links. They are well presented and provide a clear vision of what the lifestyle is about.

Numbers

In ancient times, a woman's virginity prior to marriage was of paramount concern. As time went by, it was assumed that a woman would have enjoyed a modest number of sexual partners before she married. It is said that the rule of thumb calls for one to double the number of sexual partners claimed by women and divide by half the number claimed by men to arrive at an accurate figure. In the cuckolding lifestyle, it is found that numbers are still significant but the significance is reversed. Whereas a husband in a conventional marriage is comforted by the fact that his wife had few sexual relations with other men, the husband in the cuckolding lifestyle takes pride in the number of men who have given his wife pleasure and acknowledged her sexuality in the most intimate fashion.

The first woman with whom I enjoyed this lifestyle usually had sex with two different men each weekend who she encountered at swing parties. During the four years we were together, I estimate that she had enjoyed somewhere near four hundred men. My next girlfriend who became my wife was just as active. After we divorced, I had a girlfriend who was less dedicated but was active at least twice a month for three years.

Not all couples involved in this lifestyle are so active. Some go months without any involvement outside the marriage. It is a very personal matter that reflects the couple's needs and moods. It is a lifestyle that tends to reverse all the normal considerations but in so doing creates an incredible bond of intimacy for the couple.

The very first taste

It is usual for those who are curious about this lifestyle at ask a couple about the first time they adventured into the wife having sex with another man. There is something magical and mysterious about the event even for those who have crossed this frontier. Having entered into the territory with four different woman over the years, I recall that there is an earlier moment that seems to open the door to that first time. It's when she gives you a signal that she is interested and ready if you lead the way.

The first time this happened, my girlfriend and I were on vacation spending an afternoon at a at a nude beach. As she was sitting on her towel, a man stopped by to talk with us. Standing next to her, his genitals were not more than a few inches from her face. It didn't seem to bother her, but it was closer than a woman's face would ever get to that part of a man without a sexual act developing. Later, she confided that she'd had an impulse to take him into her mouth. Imagine the effect that had on our lovemaking that night!

Some years later, a few months into a new relationship, my girlfriend was showing me some of her drawings. They were quite good. One was a male nude. "He was my last boyfriend," she said. "Sort of Bohemian," she went on to explain. I sensed she wanted to tell me more, so I asked what she meant. "He wanted us to do a threesome with another guy to see what it was like," was her answer. I asked if they'd ever actually done it. "Yes," she said. That got us talking in an intimate fashion that we hadn't previously enjoyed!

My next long-term relationship was with a woman I met at a swing party. Obviously, what would follow in our relationship was a foregone conclusion. However, one night we were out in public and she asked me to have sex with her against a fence in a parking lot. That opened up a whole style of cuckolding that we would get involved with. She loved spontaneous public encounters with strangers while I watched.

Finally, I found myself living with a woman who was conservative and not likely to have an interest in the lifestyle. One evening, she sees me relaxing in bed. She grabs the Polaroid and wants a picture. Did I mention I was nude? After she takes a few, she asks me to "get it hard" for the next shot. For the shot after that, she wants her mouth on me. "What we need is someone here to take the photos of us." And that was how the door opened for the two of us!

Ritual

Couples often adopt a ritual as they engage in cuckolding as a lifestyle. In the days leading up to an encounter, a man and woman may deal with each other differently. Some use this time for teasing as a playful way to build anticipation for the approaching sexual adventure. Others enter into a period of abstinence, which can also heighten the sexual tension between them prior to her engaging in sex with someone else. There are many stories from couples telling of the husband helping his wife in preparation for a night out. He might bath her, brush her hair or lay out her clothes.

Some couples prefer to have the husband present when the wife has her sexual encounters. Others choose for the wife to play alone while the husband awaits her return. Each choice has its own rituals and the build up to the event can be as stimulating as the event itself.

Then, there is the matter of the "After Party" when husband and wife renew their sexual connection to one another or choose to prolong a period of sexual denial for the husband.

Every aspect of cuckolding tends to develop its own ritual according to the needs and desires of the couple. All are interesting to observe. All are intended to increase the sensuality of the lifestyle.

The ring of truth

How often does a wedding ring convey the whole truth? It is said that the divorce rate is as high as fifty percent in some areas. National magazines have heralded the "New Infidelity" as being defined by women in the work place. When women were kept in the home and entirely dependent, monogamy and, in some marriages, abstinence, was the norm. Now, given their independence, a great many women are exploring their sexual natures and taking advantage of opportunities their away-from-home lifestyles now afford them.

When this occurs without the consent or understanding of a husband, it is called cheating. When it happens with the understanding and support of the husband, it falls into what has become known as the cuckolding lifestyle (as opposed to the swinging lifestyle where both husband and wife have sexual adventures).

Cuckolding makes the woman the center of attention, which is no less than she deserves.

Intimacies

Though I'm not an authority, I have enjoyed Hotwife/Cuckold relationships with four different women spanning more than a decade, so I'll offer some observations. To begin with, it has to be acknowledged that women's sexuality has been suppressed by society to such and extent that we're lucky that any remnants of it remain. It is difficult for many women to share intimacies regarding their preferences or fantasies with their boyfriends or husbands and they default to a 'vanilla' mode to avoid criticism or judgment. I have found that if a man can make his mate comfortable with her inner truths, a woman becomes freer to express herself. With my first Hotwife girlfriend, this manifested with her being able to share with me her excitement about having sex with black men. My next girlfriend was bi and opened up about her fantasies to see me with another man. I was later with a woman who shared with me her desire for double penetrations. A fourth woman told me she was turned on by the idea of anonymous sex with multiple partners in public settings.

I have never heard such confidences from the women with whom I had conventional relationships. Did they not have these thoughts? I'll never know, though I suspect they did, but felt as though they had to keep these things to themselves. I, for one, enjoy these intimacies. Imagine how a woman must feel when she doesn't have to pretend that you are the best or the biggest she's ever had and can tell you without fearing for the relationship.

Cuckolding pregnancy

My introduction to cuckolding came about at a time when condoms were not commonly in use. The preferred form of birth control was the pill. My first adventure into this lifestyle was when a girlfriend and I attended a swing party. It was my expectation that we would both have sex with others, but that isn't what happened. Within minutes of our arrival, she was swept away into a bedroom by the host of the party where they had sex with each other for over an hour. I watched them from the doorway and was transfixed by the sight of them together. When they had finished, she and I went into another bedroom where we had sex together. It was a very intimate experience to have her after she had just been with another man. When we finished, she went to get her clothes form the other room. After awhile I went to see what was keeping her. I found her with another man between her legs at the moment of his orgasm. I cannot relate just how exciting it was to see this.

Not too long after this, we discovered that she had been impregnated that evening and had no idea which of us had inseminated her. Our view was that it was 'our' pregnancy and thought nothing of it. Sadly,she miscarried. This event was our introduction into the cuckolding lifestyle, which had started with the intent of swinging wherein both mates have sex with others.

Later, as the Internet age arrived, I found that others were as interested in this concept of male monogamy and female liberation as I was. It surprised me. I thought I was alone in my excitement of seeing my woman with other men and having her afterwards. I was also surprised that, for many, the idea of a cuckold pregnancy was a large part of the fantasy--or reality, in some cases.

Today, condoms are integral to cuckolding activity, though many continue to be interested in conception as part of the ritual. It is a very primal aspect of the lifestyle, which requires caution and a great deal of thought.

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Cuckolding: A Scientific Explaination

How many of you have wondered what it is about being cuckolded that is so exciting and so thrilling? Why should something so humiliating and immasculating be such a "turn on?" How many of you have already started getting a hard-on just reading this introduction by a female who cuckolds her mate? I thought so! Well, I've studied the phenomena of "the thrilled cuckold" for quite a while, and I shall attempt in this report to explain to you the hows and whys of your thrilling sensations from being cuckolded. If the biological stuff is boring or confusing, bare with me, as I will put everything into layman's terms (pun intended).

What you have to understand is that we are all still carrying around the same biology our ancestors did in the stone age. Our primary reason for existing in this world (biologically) is to procreate offspring in order to continue our unbroken line of genes in the gene pool. The very fact that you are here is because your ancestors have had kids and grandkids for countless generations. Congratulations! You are from a successful line of ancestors who managed to insemenate females and had offspring!

Now, how is it that females and males select who we will procreate with? Men and women have different methods and different priorities for this. Males select females with long legs, shapely hips, large breasts, and pretty faces. In other words, you guys want to have sex with total foxes. Lets face it, who would you rather do, Rosie O'donell or Britney Spears? You guys look for these traits because they give signals to your brain and body that the woman is healthy and will have healthy kids. The programming in you men tells you to go out and impregnate as many foxes as you can, thereby having as many kids as you can. Men are after quantity, not necessarily quality, because you have the ability to really spread that seed around, thus increasing your chances of having more kids.

Women look for quality, not quantity. We are programmed to look for tall muscular men, with strong broad shoulders and strong arms. These are signals to us that these men are strong enough to protect us, strong enough to make good hunters and providers for our children, and if they have large cocks, they will impregnate us easily and bring us much pleasure. These guys we shall call studs. These studs produce healthy, good looking children. That's why us women would rather fuck Antonio Bandaras than Danny De Vito. When a stud makes contact with a fox, the sex is very, very good indeed! Both people enjoy orgasms which will encourage the procreation of a child. Super sex! Mind blowing sex! Fantastic orgasms!

Men and Women give off chemicals in their natural scents called pheromones. Pheromones are like perfume drugs. When they are inhaled by members of the opposite sex, the body of the inhaler processes information about the person giving off the pheromones. This process is done without you knowing about it in a part of the brain called the synapsis. When you smell the natural perfume of a woman, your body is processing information about her imune systems, her genetic makeup, and is calculating whether or not she would make a good sex partner for you. That's why you guys are attracted to certain women, and that's why you selected your wife to be your wife, because her pheromones told you she'd make you a good match. They caused you to fall in love with her. The same happened to her. Your pheromones told her that you would make a good match. However, that does NOT mean you were the best possible match for her, just the best available at the time.

The advantage of selection is with the woman. If she is a fox, she usually has several studs chasing after her, giving off their pheromones and trying to attract her. She usually selects the best one for her, but sometimes another comes around later on who makes a better match; a super stud. She will always be tempted to change up to a better partner if the opportunity presents itself. Women can be fickle creatures.

When men and women make love, they exchange more chemical pheromones that are passed during french kissing, and from the man's semen into the woman's vagina. These chemicals cause the couple to become attached to each other. This bond is only as strong as the quality of the match made in the woman's synapsis. A superior male can break this bond and create a new one with her if he can manage to get her to experience his pheromones. She will change and become attached to her new lover.

When you separate a man and a woman for a time, the man will build-up both desire for her and also some doubt of her fidelity. When you and your wife make love for the first time after you have returned from a fishing trip, or after she has been out all day and night with her girlfriends, your ejaculate will almost double in quantity, just on the outside chance that she has been unfaithful, and she has another man's semen swimming inside of her. That reaction is called the sperm competition reaction, and those orgasms experienced by men who have reunited with their mates are very powerful indeed! Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it also makes the cock harder, and the balls more productive.

Now, cuckolding is the situation where the female has been unfaithful. If her mate knows this, the sperm competition reaction in him will kick in, producing more and more sperm the very next time he is around her, regardless of whether or not they make love. When you see your wife make it with a superior male, your sperm competition reaction causes you to want to cum, and cum hard. Even though the humiliation and jealousy of what is happening also takes place in your mind, the sperm competition reaction can overcome your feelings of anger and jealousy and can cause intense pleasure by making you cum very hard with a lot of semen! This is the component that causes you to like it when your mate cheats in front of you! Your body is so compelled to compete with her lover, that you can sometimes cum just watching them! It's a trick of nature my friends! It's not even a perversion!

Now, more about your wife's reaction. Even though she has a mate (you) and she loves you very much, she is also vulnerable to the pheromones of a super stud. If a superior male comes along who gives off pheromones telling her he is a superior match to you, she will be attracted to him, and her desire to have sex with him will build. If they continue to make social contact with one another, eventually she will try to attract him into mating with her. It's her nature. If the attraction is mutual, the stud will take in the pheromones she is giving off, and the two of them will get hot for each other. They will find a way to have sex, and bring their procreative powers together. As they make love, a sexual bond will build between them and they will exchange pheromones. But that's not all!

When your wife makes love with her superior lover, she becomes his mate! He steals her from you! Here's how: as they have sex, she is taking in his pheromone chemicals when they french kiss, and from his semen in her vagina. Her body will recognize his superior genetic makeup and will reprogram itself to react to his scent and his sexual attentions more strongly than with anyone else, including you! Her strongest and most enjoyable orgasms will be with the lover who has the superior genes. She will desire him sexually, even if she doesn't like him as a person and still loves you. Her animal instincts will cause her to react to him and desire him. When he is around, her breasts will swell, and her juices will flow. She will begin to give off her own pheromones, and the two of them will become hot for each other, even in front of you! He is her mate now, and that's that! In turn, she belongs to him! He is programed to have many mates, she is programed to have the best mate. It's human nature. That explains why men struggle with monogamy, and women do too, except that a woman will change partners but will try to maintain just one relationship at a time with the best male possible. The man is always looking to spread his seed around.

Now comes the fun part: you react to your wife's lover's pheromones too! Inside every male there exists some female qualities. When you inhale your wife's lover's pheromones, your body is also processing the information about his genes. If you smell him on her body, you will get an erection. You are reacting to his superior pheromones mixed with hers. It's a natural reaction. The two of you (you and your wife) become sub-serviant to him. What a stud he is! The fact that you have been conquered by this superior male makes your wife want him all the more. He has now come between the two of you and has stolen your mate. He's also made you like it! Watching or listening to them make love causes your sperm competition reaction to make loads of sperm, and starts to demand a quick release, and that's what gives you guys "the thrill" of being cuckolded.

Of course all of this is chemical-biological, and has no effect on intellect. The rest is psychology. He is after all, a superior male (physically), so he is a better lover. It's your instinct to compete with him that gets your body in such a hurry to ejaculate. Your body doesn't know that having "staying power" is sexy to your wife, just that it is anxious to get your sperm in the contest. That's why you cum just looking at them, your body "jumps the gun". Staying power is something that is artificial actually, something that can be learned and practiced. In the stone age, men were in a hurry to cum because while they had sex, they were vulnerable to attack by other males.

The inferiority thing is a female trait (that exists in all men, even the studs). You want him to know that he is superior because, after all, he is! It's your female side that is attracted to him also. Remember, all of this is taking place in your charged synapsis, not your concious mind or even a very high level of your sub-concious mind. It doesn't mean you're gay, or anything like that. He would get the same reactions from a male who was superior to him. The thrill you get out of the humiliation is because of the sperm competition reaction, the penis envy, and the fact that your wife has used her natural selection (Darwin's theory) to pick someone else over you. It's your physical response to it that turns you on, not the mental response. Soon, the emotions of jealousy and humiliation become triggers for the thrilling sensations. That's why feelings of inadequacy and belittlement seem to fuel your desires to be cuckolded. And just because your wife has a physical lover does not neccessarily mean she will leave you or that she will stop liking/loving you. However, it does happen and that's part of the danger, isn't it? You use your physical response to help with the mental thrill of it all. If you were a weaker person mentally, you wouldn't be able to take them cheating on you, and you would react differently; maybe become violent. To sum it up, you cuckolds are a superior group mentally, but not physically! Surprise!

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The Ankle Bracelet

The ankle bracelet has become the emblem of the Hotwife. Not every woman who wears one is conscious of the significance this has in the Cuckolding Lifestyle, nor does every Hotwife wear one. It is, however, a potent symbol of the lifestyle and any woman who wears one will, no doubt, fire the imagination of those who have had contact with this lifestyle.

Cuckolding as a lifestyle

The first time I heard the term 'cuckolding' being used to describe a lifestyle was well after the time I came to recognize a primal urge towards this activity in myself. In some of my relationships we indulged in swinging. It surprised me to discover that the most stimulating aspect of swinging for me was seeing my woman enjoying sex with other men. I wasn't expecting or prepared for this reaction, but it persisted and become a motivating force in our intimate life. I found that the activity created a bond of intimacy that had been lacking in my 'vanilla' relationships. My girlfriends, and ultimately my wife, found the freedom liberating to say the least. For a woman to be this free with herself requires that she overcome much of what society enforces on her, but it became evident that women are naturally suited to the role of Goddess and enjoy it after the initial reluctance passes.

There are many ways in which to express this lifestyle. Generally, it implies that the man is monogamous and the woman is sexually free.